I have to say that in 13 years of doing what I do, this is the first time I've had a parent be so blatant about her dislike of me and my approach(es). I have had 2 other families cancel services with me and each time it is a blow to the ego, leaving me searching for reasons WHY.
Funny enough, my management duties often involve coaching other therapists through exactly this kind of situation & I've oft repeated that we all get fired in the course of treating for any length of time. That's true. The other nuggets of truth I'll add to that discussion are:
- Each time it stings, leads to questioning of skill, doubt in what you have to offer.
- Questioning and reflection on skill is important, no matter how long you've been practicing your trade.
- Underlying that ego-blow is RELIEF.
- If you so happen to dread interaction with a caregiver so much that you are nervous to tell about jury duty service, then that relief will wash through you with your second mixed drink--that spreading warmth a combination of a little buzz and the realization that you never have to take abuse from that particular parent ever. again. HALLELUJAH.
So much more I could say. So. Much. But in the hopes of salvaging my professionalism, I'll stop. . . in a minute. Just for the record, if I ever am in complete denial that my child needs limits or has failings, someone take me out back and beat some sense into me.
**The part I left out was that after I left the home I was not the picture of calm. It involved quite a bit of righteous indignation, well-timed curses & shaking with anger (no exaggeration). I'll save that post for another day.