"Somebody said" that I have boundaries

The most amazing of weekends with my girlfriends could only be followed by??? Yep. The worst work day since February 21st. Possibly the worst work day since joining this company 6 years ago. I despise working for and reporting to people that aren't trustworthy. Despise. I have done everything in my power to maintain a positive attitude during the transition to a new manager, tried to live up to every expectation only to have my personality dissected over a lunch that was mislabeled as "discussing my concerns." Let's be clear--the lunch was only a pretense to tell me to agree with everything suggested, not voicing history of procedure or to question "why." Disgusting. I also find it to be disgusting that someone is so without gumption as to use terms such as "other people have said" when trying to back up their own views.

When faced with this or a similar situation in the past, I would have fallen apart--become emotional and not stayed strong. This time I fell apart, became emotional and then stayed strong. I did it. When I questioned this so-called superior what I hadn't completed, the answer was nothing. I then asked her to please NOT use the "other people have said" line. When the majority of her critique centered on another person's upset, I repeatedly asked her to redirect that person to talk to me in the future.

So yeah, I cried. I felt disheartened. BUT I stayed strong and didn't give up on my own points--and I set and maintained firm boundaries. This could possibly backfire, but it'll still be a victory for me.

Delirium

It's important to note that this video was taken after about 20 laps. . ..

30 Days Can Make a Difference

It was exactly a month ago that my work-world went all topsy-turvy and made me question my place. To say it's been an emotional, exhausting week would be an understatement. I committed myself to reserving judgment, keeping an open mind as possible when my new supervisor arrived. It is not my nature to reserve judgment, to be patient for a situation to unfold, but I do see the importance. And it looks like this time, my reserve has worked for me so far. My first impression was NOT positive, but I waited. And finally with encouragement and a heart-to-heart with the owner of the company, I allowed myself to open up--to be the forthright, open, helpful person that is my nature. Turns out that this was all I needed to do--I now feel like my new supervisor and I at least have open lines of communication. While the jury is still out on the ultimate resolution of this situation (perfection has not occurred in the 30 days), I have found honest hope. And that is the most I could ask. It is now not a fib to say that I am hopeful, that I have no reason to NOT trust this stranger in our midst.